Your Level of Commitment Determines success
Your Level of Commitment determines Success !
“If you’re not getting the results you want, it’s because you haven’t invested enough to get those results.” -Benjamin Hardy
Your commitment determines success in every single area of your life:
- Your quality of relationships,
- Your level of career fulfillment,
- Your quality of health and wellness,
- The numbers in your bank account,
- Your entire future,
Most people aren’t committed. They are simply “interested.”
In the words of John Assaraf:
“If you’re interested, you come up with stories, excuses, reasons, and circumstances about why you can’t or why you won’t. If you’re committed, those go out the window. You just do whatever it takes.”
Many of you know I struggled with quitting an addiction to pornography for 15 years.
It wasn’t for lack of trying, either. I read every book, prayed every prayer, vowed every vow, installed every “accountability software.” Nothing worked. I was preparing to live the rest of my life with this hidden obsession.
But it was. And when I met my now-wife Kimi, I knew I had to stop — whatever it took. If I ever wanted a chance at a healthy marriage, I needed to kick the habit, permanently.
So I went to therapy. I wrote the 18 pages (front to back) for my therapist when he asked me to write down every single instance I could remember of feeling “shame.” I went to 90 meetings in 90 days (twice). My therapist told me to drive to a meeting inconveniently located an hour away, just to make sure I was truly invested.
I was committed. Come hell or high water, this behavior would end.
And it did. I haven’t looked at porn in years. I plan to never look at it ever again. My intimacy with my friends and family has never been deeper. I look straight into my friend’s eyes and say “I love you” all the time.
This is the power of commitment instead of “interest.”
Most people will remain “interested,” nothing more. They may claim they’ll do whatever it takes, or make grand gestures of behavioral change, but deep down their commitment is shaky and weak.
If you haven’t achieved the type of success you want yet, it’s probably because you haven’t committed enough yet.
“If you want lasting change, you have to give up this idea of just trying something, and you have to commit yourself to mastery. That means not just “dabbling,” but fully immersing yourself. Because your life is not controlled by what you do some of the time, but by what you do consistently.” -Tony Robbins
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